Well, claims of “binary privilege” usually come from white coercively female-assigned trans ppl (CAFAB, FAAB, DFAB for those who didnt know. Srry having a spelling-things-out day today) who usually want to claim that trans women somehow get to have like, some kinda privilege over them by, idk, usually being “visible” (ie targeted) or something, or get to have our gender affirmed as women vs being misgendered as just cis lesbians or tomboys or whatever, and how we get to see ourselves in media and books and stuff at all is a privilege itself. I mean, I guess I see where that’s coming from. It really fuckin sucks to be misgendered and invalidated everywhere every day, and not be able to see yourself in mainstream media and LGBT stuff, and family shit and whatnot. No one is saying that all FAAB trans people dont have struggle.
But damn, look at what you all are doing! The point they usually try to make, besides a plea to stop misgendering, is that they need to be listened to and validated more in queer and feminist communities. And they say this usually with the point that we need to listen to them, as [usually white] FAAB non-binary trans people more, and stop listening so much to trans women. Whether they specifically name trans women in that or not, that’s what they’re saying, that’s what they’re doing. And what they’re fucking MAAB non-binary people out of as well. Because MAAB non-binary people also experience transmisogyny and typically face far greater shit from the world than FAAB folks, and dont get to be “femme princes” or say “fuck your gender binary” without far greater consequences. I mean, if I were to interrogate my identity Id probably say Im pretty non-binary myself, but transmisogyny forces me to conform as much as possible to everyone’s perfect picture of the perfectly passable transsexual woman to make it from point A to point B in public and maybe have some people make eye contact with me and interact with me like a human. How is transmisogyny something that just happens along with a “binary privilege” ?? Privilege isnt just a mass of measurable things that we do or dont possess, its the result and manifestation of violent relationships. Focusing on a “binarism” rather than transmisogyny pretty much only benefits FAAB trans people and silences the people who face the violence.
Cuz there’s already a lot of people talking and listening to FAAB trans ppl, men and not, in queer and feminist communities. Like, look at it all, pretty much everything in the popular “trans liberation/radical queer” shit is all by and for FAAB trans people. It’s pretty fuckin commonplace to see all that “challenge the binary” “stop misgendering” shit in queer feminism. It’s a goddamn facking miracle if I see anyone besides other trans women talking about trans women in non-tokenizing, not-transmisogynist ways. FAAB trans people are usually already embedded in dyke queer or feminist communities by the time they transition or at least get quick and total acceptance in them, at least until they start doing really fucked up shit to other FAAB trans ppl or cis women and all the sudden everyone’s surprised that trans masculine ppl are capable of misogyny and arent just some special kind of dyke. Meanwhile, the sublime transmisogyny in queer and feminist communities is never even a thought (past “fuck Radfems! Trans women are women too!”). Meanwhile feminism itself comes from 40+ years of explicit and violent transmisogyny that created all those laws, women’s shelters, rape crisis centers, and ways of relating to each other that shut out trans women. I mean, here in Arizona, I know Southern Arizona Center Against Sexual Assault refused services to trans women (“male-bodied”) less than a decade ago, and the rationale for Steve Kevenaugh’s “bathroom bill” coulda been copied and pasted straight from feminist writings on trans women. Meanwhile trans women are still lethally isolated from each other and critical resources, meanwhile still dead silence from feminism on stuff that will actually help trans women of color with day to day survival, meanwhile etc etc I’m not gonna rehash everything transmisogynist that feminism has and continues to be. 40 years of writing hate on us cutting us and our elders from means of survival, and now they think its all good and they’re “fighting transphobia.” Because they’re nice to us. And call us “she” now. And the reserved seat for the hypothetical trans woman is always open, for the trans woman they find pretty enough to consider a woman and will challenge nothing theyre doing.
It’s not a privilege to be a target of the whole damn world. But because claims of “binarism” are way better fits for their queer feminist agenda than taking racist transmisogyny seriously, because “challenge the binary” as their priority is way more profitable than “stop the violence against trans women of color”, queer feminism only cares about the former.
That was a really disjointed and incomplete rant. Biyuti puts things way better than I do, especially concerning non-binary “invisibility” and binarism and whiteness.